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Kindle Library THE GIFT OF NOT BELONGING: HOW OUTSIDERS THRIVE INA WORLD OF JOINERS = Running the Gauntlet of Adolescence There is no more challenging time for otroverts than adolescence, a period when every teenager around them, regardless of social position, is vying for membership in a peer group. In a way, an adolescent group is a cult, closed off to nonmembers and ruled by the collective ethos, which requires unbridled fealty. For communal people, adolescence is a time for figuring out what type of person they are becoming; it’s the period when, aided by a newfound sense of independence, they begin to separate their personalities, values, and preferences from those of their parents. Paradoxically, the social sorting that occurs during this period ends up becoming the primary mechanism through which the teenager’s nascent sense of self develops. The sense of us versus them becomes part of the teenager’s identity, along with whatever image the group chooses to project, whatever rules the group decides to follow, and whatever ideas the group decides to believe in or care about. It is in many ways a grand rehearsal for adulthood, where most people identify strongly with the groups they belong to. Leaming reading speed Yet adolescence is unique in that these groupings are largely arbitrary, in that the group members don’t really share anything other than being the same age and attending the same school. In a way, an adolescent group is a random collection of teenagers put in daily contact. Over time, friendship groups may coalesce around shared activities—the soccer players, the drama club kids, the budding musicians, and so on—but even these cliques are more a matter of proximity and convenience than true kinship. In some cases, adolescents who choose to participate in similar activities share similar curiosities or interests but are just as likely to be participating for less intrinsic reasons, such as thinking ahead to what will look good on their college applications, or because their parents enrolled them. For teenagers, the group membership itself is enough to create a sense of kinship and unite its members, whereas adults need a shared belief, interest, or cultural sameness to cohere around. There is no question that the teenage years are the most bruising period for otroverts. For the first time, not belonging is painful. Trapped between their natural reticence and the social structures imposed on them, otroverts discover that being themselves and being a teenager are fundamentally incompatible. In adolescence, the group assigns one’s social position, whether one likes it or not; never before or after do peers have such power over a person. Most teenagers unquestionably accept the group’s rule even if it is unfavorable to them. But for otrovert teenagers, the group plays a contradictory role. On one hand, it holds no real authority; on the other, it is “the only game in town.” Short, perhaps, of being homeschooled, it is virtually impossible for one to opt out. The need to fake fealty to the hive mind goes against the otrovert’s instincts, and it is the first time they strongly feel their otherness since everyone around them is consumed with the endeavor of fitting in, joining, and being liked. Page 158 of 226 » 76% = Q Aa
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